A few years ago, I struggled with happiness. Although I always heard the phrase, “happiness is a choice”, I never believed it. Instead, I was convinced the world was out to get me. I wasn’t happy with my job, my social life wasn’t as fun as it used to be, and I recently broke up with my long-term boyfriend. It’s safe to say I was sad and lonely. So, I decided to get a dog.
Adopting a dog was the best thing I have ever done. Not only did I have someone to come home to every day and keep me company, but I also began to change. In some ways, my dog helped get me back on my feet. I switched careers, made new friends, and even rekindled a spark with a guy I knew from college. Finally, I decided to choose happiness.
If I could choose happiness, I know you can too. Choosing happiness is hard. That’s why it’s okay to get a little help along the way. So, here are a few lessons I learned from my dog of how you can be happy!
Whenever you meet someone new, give them a chance. So what, if they look different than you or you’ve heard rumors about them from people you know? Push all of your judgments aside and give them a fair chance. You never know what could happen when you reach out to someone and get to know them.
It’s important to be adventurous and take chances. Push yourself out of your comfort zone in every aspect of your life. From the food you try at restaurants, to the places you travel and the things you do, it’s important to try new things.
A lot of people are guilty of rejecting compliments, I know I was. It’s easy to say something along the lines of, “Oh, you’re just being nice”, when someone compliments you. But, it’s also easy to say, “Thank you”, and give them a genuine compliment in return.
People will make mistakes and things will happen that you wish didn’t. But, it’s important to forgive these mistakes and actions instead of dwelling over them or holding a grudge. While holding a grudge might seem like the best solution when you’re mad at someone, it does nothing but hurt yourself. Grudges cause more anger, stress, and emotional turmoil than letting things go. So take some time, think things over, and welcome forgiveness with open arms.
Enjoy Your Journey
Even the happiest person feels sad or angry sometimes. That’s normal. It’s only abnormal when you feel sad or angry majority of the time instead of feeling happy. Life is going to throw you twists and turns that you might not feel ready for. But, it’s important to enjoy life throughout all of the highs and lows.
You probably wouldn’t believe me if I told you this in person (at least if you knew me), but a few years ago, I was not a morning person. Total former night-owl here… I would stay up until 3 a.m. because that’s when my creative juices were flowing the highest.
But I quickly learned that if you want to be successful in business and in life, becoming a morning person is essential. Why? Most of the relationships you’ll develop with other people will happen during the day, not at night. Also, your productivity steadily decreases as the day goes on. Do the research, and you’ll find that the world’s most successful people wake up at 4:30 a.m.
As I began to build my business, I noticed how quickly I struggled compared to my peers, and a lot of that was due to the fact that I wouldn’t wake up until 10 a.m. some days. 5 a.m. certainly was NOT on my radar, and even when I did set an alarm, I’d hit snooze 20 times before finally waking up 2 hours later, feeling groggy and depressed because of how much I knew I could have accomplished in that time.
How did I become a morning person? Honestly, the simple answer is: I just DID it. And that’s what I’d tell anyone who is struggling to wake up early: Just do it. (Nike had it right this whole time.)
But perhaps you’re reading this and thinking, “It’s not that simple, man.” If you came here looking for some practical tips on how to become a morning person, don’t worry. I’m going to give that to you, because I know what it’s like to be in your shoes. “Just do it,” just doesn’t cut it for all people. You need motivation. Here’s a step-by-step guide you can implement to go from night-owl to morning person in just two weeks.
Step 1: Find your “why.” What’s your reason for wanting to wake up earlier? If you don’t have a reason, you’ll find yourself quickly unmotivated after day one. Figure out exactly what you want to accomplish in those wee morning hours and write it down. You can’t accomplish a goal if you don’t have a target to hit in the first place!
Step 2: Go to bed earlier. Once you’ve established your “why,” decide how many hours of sleep you’ll need to function optimally. Go to bed at a time that will allow you to get that much sleep, and set an alarm for the time you want to wake up. I recommend waking up anywhere between the hours of 4 and 6 a.m., with 5 a.m. being the ideal time for me. But you do what works for you. You’ll be surprised what a difference going to be a few hours earlier can make in your productivity.
Step 3: Set your alarm far away from your bed. There are actually phone apps that will require you to perform an activity (like spinning 3 times) before the alarm shuts off. This requires you to actually get out of bed and do something that will wake you up so that hitting the snooze button is not an option. If you’re one of those people who struggles with “snooze,” I definitely recommend downloading and using one of those apps. Either way, make sure you have to actually get out of bed in order to turn off your alarm.
Step 4: Drink a glass of water first thing after waking up. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. Go straight to the kitchen, grab a glass, fill it up, and guzzle it down. This is good for a few things. First, it will wake you up. Especially if that water is cold. Second, it will hydrate you. We are all extremely dehydrated when we wake up because, well, it’s been 8 hours since we have had anything to eat or drink. You need water. Drinking it first thing in the morning is a great step in the right direction and will help you stay hydrated throughout the day. Third, it will help you lose weight. Hydration assists your body in detoxification, which in turn helps you shed body fat.
Step 5: Work out. Exercise is good for you, and it’ll get your body’s endorphins flowing so you’ll wake up faster. I know this seems like a hard thing for people who stay up late, but you’re already going to bed earlier, so it should be easier.
Step 6: Take a shower. I would say “take a cold shower,” but that probably won’t motivate you to wake up, so take a shower at whatever temperature feels good to you. It’s best to look forward to whatever activity you’ll be doing first thing in the morning, since dreading it will make you want to go right back to bed.
Step 7: Drink a cup of coffee. Or some other drink that gives you energy. Just make sure it’s not unhealthy. We do not suggest high-sugar energy drinks or sodas, since they’ll likely give you a quick boost of energy but cause you to crash later. Instead, a single cup of coffee with a healthy fat like coconut oil will do the trick and help to sustain you at optimal levels throughout the day. Or if you use a healthy energy supplement, that’s good too.
Step 8: Spend 15 minutes doing something you enjoy. This “ME” time is crucial to your routine. Knowing that you get to have this time is motivating in and of itself. But it also allows you to work on your own personal development. Maybe you like reading a book, doing a daily devotional, writing, or doing something creative. Whatever it is, carve out this time for yourself. You won’t regret it.
Take these 8 steps for two weeks, and they will become habit. Once you’ve created a habit, it will become harder and harder to break. You’ll be a morning person in no time!
There are sustaining truths regarding ourselves that we in some cases do not see or keep in mind. What are they? They are realities that were identified countless years back and have stood the test of time. Right here are a 4 of them and also some concepts regarding the best ways to utilize this understanding.
Truths Regarding Self Passion
Even we give up things for other people, we usually do it to fulfill our own self-interests, even if only partially. Those interests include great feelings and desiring to see or make the world the way we want it to be. In order to avoid this resentment that comes with “obligation”, we require to see how being an excellent individual and also doing the appropriate thing is often simply motivated by our own self interest.
When we want to fix their actions, we can also aim out the self-involvement of others. Inform a male he’s incorrect, and it isn’t generally adequate to change his actions. It’s much better to show him his real rate of interest– that acting in a much better way is better for HIM. Do not forget the regular as well as healthy and balanced self-interest in taking care of others.
Truths Regarding Blunders
Perhaps you see this as negativity, but recognizing the truth is never a negative act. We all make mistakes.
This isn’t really an attack on human achievement, yet an acknowledgment that it isn’t really depending on doing things flawlessly. Perfectionists definitely suffer for their demands after themselves, while others wait to act for worry of mistakes. Accept that making blunders is typical, and also do not harp on the possibility or the truth of those blunders. As Lao Tzu says, “Do your work, then step back — The only path to serenity.”
Truths About Learning
Our errors provide us a possibility to discover, and so stay clear of even bigger errors. Why not see successes and errors–both our very own as well as those of others–as the great opportunities they are.
Truths Regarding Adjustment
A much less important fact is that individuals often do not transform. The far extra essential reality to bear in mind, as well as the most important of these withstanding realities, is that we CAN change.